Seeing Grief in a Different Light

I’m going to offer you an uncomfortable possibility.

If it triggers you, know that is a good sign. It’s in the discomfort that we find answers. Those emotions that challenge us and make us want to curl up and withdraw from life, or kick and scream, they are messengers. They are the guideposts to the energy traffic jams within.

Grief from the loss of a loved one.

It will be your constant companion for life. Will it ever show you mercy? If you believe you will only find relief in grief’s abandonment of its relentless pursuit, then no.

Perhaps we could change the way we perceive that ‘relentless pursuit’?

What is grief if it isn’t love?

If you change the word from ‘grief’ to ‘love’, you could also change the way you define it.

Would you want love to abandon you? I’m guessing your answer is no.

The pain is in the resistance.

Your pain stems from your resistance to the love and to the change of its manifestation from matter to energy.

Grief is a reminder that your connection to your loved one is unbroken, though you cannot physically see them or touch them. That energetic bond never goes away. It is love in its purest form.

Our mind wants to fight that fact. Our mind wants us to believe that they’ve gone, and we can never speak to them or share our trials and triumphs with them again.  

What if you could get to a place where you integrate if not welcome the grief just as you welcomed the love, and redefine the connection with your loved one?

You can still honour them.

You can still love them.

You can still share your life with them, albeit in a different way.

It will take time to get to this place. You need to be ready.

If you are ready to start, find a companion to walk with you along this new path.

I am here if you need me.

Be well.